So i'm quite young but I always tend to fall for the player types who only want me for friends with benefits or one night stands. It's started to piss me off because when I decide to fall for one of these guys and find out there real motives it breaks my heart a little. So I always tend to test them before I decide whether or not I want to communicate deeper with them. Most have failed, I need a good guy in my life... most that I have recognized to be good tend to show all the signs of interest, preening around me, staring at me for long periods of time and such but it's like they're scared to approach me. Where are the good guys? I'm sick of falling for the player types.
Where can I go to find a good man... any ideas? It's quite depressing now...
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Typically, you want to stay away from clubs and other high night life areas. The night game is usually for one night stands. You need to scrutinize men immensely to see if they fit to your standards. For example, in women, I look for humility, kindness, NO PETTINESS, down to earth, and so on for dating. For men, I'd recommend staying away from egotistical, narcissistic, overly confident, and men of such genre. There are many micro psychological behaviors which you can pick up on such as a common one in inexperienced men is bragging. Men who brag tend to have more ego and thereby being more selfish. Here's a super secret way to test a man: give him an animal (dog or cat) or even a baby to play with and see how he reacts to it. Girls get very surprised that I turn into melted butter around babies or animals. I have a very strong nurturing instinct, but almost no one knows about it until I go around them. You may have to wait (trust me I know that feeling) but in the mean time just have fun and explore. Additionally, I feel you are very mature for your age. Most people around our age will not be as mature so you will naturally feel out of sync with people our age... Have you considered older men?1