All of the below was done via text message...
He asked me if he could come stay the night with me after having dinner. I said sure. (We have been talking for about 2 months now and this is the 4th date.) Then in one minute later he asked "Is that asking for too much?", I responded with "No, not at all." Another minute later he says "Nevermind". My response "Nevermind? That's a bit odd." No response from him. Next morning... I send a text and say "Hey I was looking forward to dinner and you coming over... yea or nay?" His response "I can't come" (with a frowney face at the end and no explanation.) My response "Ok! Pshaw". I am not a needy person. I can take it or leave it or schedule it at a later time or not. This one baffled me though... what gives here guys? Did he scare himself or what? Last thing I want to get involved with is a flake who plays the enter and withdraw game... should I get out of this now? LOL!
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Communication by text and email is fraught with potential for misreading what other people are thinking. Judge it more by how you both are face to face. It could be that he was hoping for something more enthusiastic than "No, not at all". For example I always wonder if people are being funny with me when they just give simple answers like "Okay" so I always try to embellish. If he feels he is being too pushy then he may be more inclined to take brief replies the wrong way.1