I found this article online. It fits me perfectly. I've been talking to a guy for almost a year. We were sort of friends with benefits, I guess? We didn't call each other girlfriend/boyfriend, but we acted like it, I suppose, without the titles. Now that he's opening up, I feel suffocated and trapped? I'm now doubting my feelings for him, which were just there. How does that change in a matter of days when he's done nothing wrong except open up to me more? I have a really low self-esteem, and maybe that's my problem. Something in my mind is like, "Break up with him. You're doubting your feelings for him, and it isn't fair to him." But I don't want to! I want to love him, but I don't know if I know how to. And what if I'm never able to? I've been freaking out for quite some time over this and it's caused me so much anxiety/depression. I don't want to give him up, so why am I asking myself if I actually like him? Is it just that I have the same problem as the girl from the article? I don't understand. I was perfectly happy before and then all of a sudden I'm doing this. He's amazing and I don't wanna ruin it with him. :( I just want it to be like it was a few weeks ago. What do you think I should do?
(I had to put a space between the. And com so that it would let me post a link because I'm not actually at the level where I'm allowed to do that yet... Oops.)
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I am the same way. Whenever things start going good I do something to push them away then regret it. I literally just did this last night. I feel like he may be interested now and I'm starting to question myself. After talking it out with a friend I realized you just have to let down your guard and give it a shot. But personally, I would only do it if I 100% knew he was interested.1