It's not really a long distance ( 45 min drive) . But I have a feeling that I need to move out cos my boyfriend and I have been fighting and it got to the point where he grabbed me. He told me I make it ALL ABOUT HIM ( haven't a clue what that means) and that I am in his face the whole time. Another thing is his mom. She is so overpowering ( nosy , snooping around) That I couldn't buy my bf a card without him having to hide it / throw it out. I forgot to say we are in a secret relationship for the past year. I try to cuddle him but he pushes me away saying he is not a cuddly toy to be cuddling. That I pressurize him into changing himself and that he won't change. I told him I am moving out and he just ignores me telling me that 1:I NEED TO GROW UP BECAUSE I am acting childish.
2: I AM LOOKING FOR ATTENTION AND HE IS NOT GIVNG ME THAT.
3: I AM MAKING A MISTAKE BY MOVING OUT
4: WHAT IS TH. POINT IN GOING OUT IF I AM MOVING OUT.
5: I AM SPOILED BECAUSE WHEN I DONT GET WHAT I AM LOOKIN FOR I ACT LIKE A BULL (I am a very emotional person who is trying to express herself. The amount of times I tried to talk to this guy he just ignores me. Makes me stomp around ( like ugghhh I can't get through to him 😠)
6:HE IS NEVER CHANHING.
7:I DISRISPECT HIS FAMILY ( even tho his mom passes remarks , controls me where I am ,)
8:HE doesn't CARE ABOUT ANYTHING ( BUT HE CARES ABOUT ME... YEAH SURE HE DOES)
Honestly I think he is acting childish ignoring me while I am moving out. Why is he doing this? How should I ACT? What should I do about this? It's so frustrating I have been crying for the last 2 nights. Oh and he loses his cool with me.
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I am slightly confused here. You live with this guy and his family but have been in a secret relationship for the past year?
How did you come to be living with him & his family?
He clearly feels suffocated and everything he is doing is telling you exactly who he is as a person.
He wants but doesn't want you - he is treating you like an option until he finds something else.
The all about him bit is because he feels you are depending on him to make everything good and he's tired of it.
You should move out - it might help your relationship grow.2
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