I'm mixed, my mom is white and dad is black. People are mostly white in the area I live. My mum has dated 2 black men and they both turned out to be total assholes.
For a example, I have never seen my dad but he usuadlly asks to send money every 2 years. I haven't heard a word from him in 3 years, he sent a message todays saying my mum is a bitch and I'm a bastard.
Maybe it's because I've only met black guys that are assholes (and racist idiots, those guys I met at clubs) but I don't want to date them. I have no problem being friend and I fond the attractive but I don't see them dateable.
Should I just get over this and be willing to date black guys or do I have right to feel like this?
Just to clarify, I don't hate black guys or think they are ugly, just that I don't want to date them.
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I'm going to go with "yes".
You say you find some black guys attractive.
You also say that you've had bad experiences, the three you've known best I guess were deadbeats.
Lets say you're even correct (I'm not saying this!) that more black guys are assholes. I guess if you were going to marry someone off a picture, you'd marry a white guy.
But you will actually meet and talk to and interact with and have an ability to judge the men you date.
If a guy is an asshole, if he's an asshole. If he's a good guy, he's a good guy.
You have the 'right' to feel however you want, but if there's a good guy you find attractive who wants to date you and you'd be compatible with, you're doing both of you a disservice by letting bad experiences in the past make you presume something about him based on his skin.2