So, I'm 20 years old, only have kissed a girl once, don't have many friends and I don't really have much, if any, self-confidence and low self-esteem. During high school I was diagnosed with major depression, didn't really have any friends and though I'm better off now than then, I still am really lonely and sad most of the time. I know I'm not what girls are looking for in a partner due to the self-esteem/confidence issues, and I'm just not sure how to keep myself going through life with the idea that I might never have a partner. I'm generally fine with being alone, I find a certain solitude in it, but I don't want to be lonely my whole life. I've always wanted to have a family, but it doesn't look like that's very likely. My best friend says I'm a very loving person, good looking, that I'm great with my music, and that plenty of girls would want me, but she admits the esteem and confidence issues are a major turnoff. But she also says that some girls wouldn't mind a guy like me? Is that true? If not, how can I just move on and live my life to as full as an extent as I can?
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When I used to fight, my coach had me do this, so I invite you to get a piece of paper and a pen, do it right now. Write in this piece of paper "fear is a liar". I want you to hang this on your wall and read it every single morning. I want you to realize that your lack of self confidence is simply there because you have fear of rejection, embarrassment, etc. At the end of the day, all of this is bullshit. It's your mind and evolution playing tricks on you. Fear is a fucking liar. Repeat it to yourself right now. Next time you go to school, your going to talk to girls until you get a number. Your going to be yourself and eventually one of these girls will be yours. Message me if you want to talk more... and remember your fear is bullshit, it's a fucking liar.0