I'm dating for the 1st time I've only had 3 real relationships all which I knew them a long time b4 we became a item one was my husband of 13 years the other to was 6 years and 1 yr so now this guy I met on line and don't want to give it up to quick my last relationship was supposed to be a one night stand so I didn't care but now I'm dating to have a relationship but I haven't had sex in almost 3 months so I'm really wanting to but don't want him to think of me as a slut. Girls always say"i don't usually do this" n men no is bs but in my case its true unless I want a 1 night stand or a rebound
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Rather than trying to manipulate the guy in your life, why not try treating him as an equal. Guys understand women like sex (and if he doesn't, *you don't want to be with him anyway*) and it's not like you're a 15-year old girl. You're an adult, it's the 21st century, you've had sex before, you want to again, and you'll continue to want to. Be honest about it. If a guy dumps you because he thinks you're a slut... you don't need that guy in your life :p because you won't be getting good sex.
Speaking as a guy who likes sex, I have to say the idea of dumping a girl because she has sex with me too quickly just doesn't make sense. Why the hell would I want to get rid of someone who is attracted to me and who enjoys sex? It'd be like shooting myself in the foot. Except somewhere more sensitive. I think the whole "slut" thing is kind of crazy. (so I recommend dating feminists ;) )
Now, if you don't want to have had sex with a guy and then break up with him, then waiting until the relationship is fairly stable makes sense.
Bonus points if you run the guy past your friends to get 2nd opinions if he's worth dating :) Good luck, play safe.0
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