So me and this guy lets call him bill have been talking. He took me on one date and the rest of the times we've hung out have been at his house. I like to take physical things kindof slow because of a bad experience and i told him i wouldn't have sex with him so if he wanted a booty call to look elsewhere. He promised no sex so I stayed over his house twice and we did nothing but cuddle (not even kiss).
Bill claims that he has never been in love. after a couple times hanging out he told me he wasn't looking to settle down. He's attractive and has a lot of girls hanging around and girls he talks to. This was fine by me because i do not want a boyfriend. He's a bad texter and wouldn't reply to half the texts I sent him. He also would never initiate things. I told him how mad it made me but it fell on deaf ears i guess. I left him alone for a while.
Then after a a week or so I texted him and he invited me over. I stayed and again nothing happened. After 4th time i asked why he hadn't kissed me yet (it was driving me insane, like omg is he or is he not interested). He told me he was being a gentleman. So that night (5th time) I went over and we went to bed and i gave him a back rub and leaned down to kiss him and it ended in just some handsy stuff. Him being satisfied at the end but me not so much.
Since then he doesn't ignore my texts like before but he still doesn't initiate anything. He also doesn't like any pics or posts on my Facebook anymore. (his brother does though) I'm a very shy girl with a very prude public image but I would love to be with a man i care about and have him take control. I am not looking for a relationship but I've been single 2 years after a 3 year relationship and I want to experience something other than the bad memories left by my ex. So I want a man who treats me good but that won't want more because a relationship would not be ideal for me right now. I just don't know if Im nothing more than a notch on bill's belt.
Most Helpful Guy
You don't want a boyfriend, he doesn't sound like he wants a girlfriend so essentially you don't want each other? From what you have said it's clear to me.
You should however discuss where you think you are both at, what you want or expect from one another and then you will have a more accurate idea.
Why guess his thoughts when you can just talk about it with him?
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Most Helpful Girl
talk to him. get things clear0