Thing is, I'm usually a pretty confident person, I always managed to stay independent in my relationships, I've never let a guy mistreat me or anything.
I was in a relationship for 2 years and it ended a few months ago, and then I met this new guy and I kind of liked him. We started dating, we've been dating for over a month now.
Two days ago, he started to be a bit distant. And the weirdest thing happened to me, I started to get obsessed. It never happened to me before, I feel like I'm locked in a cage and I can't get out. I keep on checking my phone, analyzing his messages, waiting for him to call, wondering why he hasn't answered...
Do you have any tips to snap out of it? I feel like I'm losing my mind. I don't even like him THAT much, and I was really in control of the situation until now.
Did this happen to you? What did you do? :S Thanks
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I was in a similar situation a long time ago, and here's what I did.
Turned my phone off. And didn't turn it on for one evening.
No internet for the same amount of time. That way I'd keep myself from checking his MySpace all the time (Myspace was the sh** back then lol).
Cooked myself something good to eat and baked brownies with caramel and walnuts.
Gave myself a facial and hair mask, closed my eyes for 15 minutes to chill out. Then gave myself a makeover.
Grabbed a soft blanket and curled up on the couch with a movie I like.
If the movie didn't work, I'd grab a good book.
If all else failed and nothing would calm me down, I'd call my best friend (or any friend who could make it) and we'd drink a glass of wine (if you don't drink, make yourself a good, non-alcoholic cocktail).
Based on my own experience with this situation, I'm gonna take a guess and say that maybe you're a bit traumatized with the end of the relationship, especially if you've been together for 2 years. That isn't nothing, even if you were the one who initiated the breakup. So here comes a guy you kinda like, and you want him to be around because there's the intimacy that you're missing from the relationship you were in, even if the rest of it wasn't that great. That can lead to temporarily obsessive behavior towards the guy you like. You may need confirmation that you're still desirable enough to be in a relationship with, that another guy will fall in love with you, hug you, kiss you (again the intimacy I spoke of before). And if I may suggest, maybe you're not ready for a new guy yet? I could offer more detailed advice if I knew who initiated the break-up, you can always PM me if you want.5