a guy I have been seeing for 3 months now just broke things off because he feels that he wants to be single and that he doesn't want to hurt me.. I can help but feel that maybe if I was better he would still want me. What can I say to make him give me a chance? I know I will make him happy..
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one thing I learned from my divorce. something I didn't want (25 years together)
You cannot make someone love you or want to be with you.
NEVER change who you are to make someone happy. That is co-dependency. I was in a seriously co-dependent relationship my whole marriage. I gave up everything about myself. I let her make all the decisions, choose everything, did everything she wanted, all because I was afraid she would leave. In the end she did.
but that is her issue. I had very little to do with the divorce. she was not able to deal with it and she was unable to let things go.
So in the end, be who you are. if they cannot accept that, they are not worth your time. It might really suck... but you have to move on...0