There's this guy I've dated for some months now - we were together for 2 weeks before I broke it off. He's a cool guy to hang out with, but waaay too feminine for my type. I would almost guess he was gay - so there's no hope for the long-term, I lost all my attraction to him.
He wants all or nothing, whereas I want friendship and to keep him in my life. The first time his buddy caught me on Tinder, he ended things. I somehow managed to get out of it and he gave me another chance. To him we were "together", to me we were friends until I found someone better. His buddy recently saw me on Tinder again, and this time he broke it off for good... until I texted him and said I was gonna date other guys... then he called me and said he'd be willing to hear me out. Do you have any tips on how I can keep him as a friend without it going further? He told me that we're either together, or he won't be in my life at all.
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Look, as someone who did this to a girl for about 3 years, I now feel fucking horrible for it and regret not just telling her how I really felt, so she could move on from me. I hurt her so badly the entire time because I was too selfish to let her go; loved her as a friend, she wanted more.
Don't be as selfish as I was, please. Would you want him to do it to you if you were attached and he wasn't?
I don't want to come across as a hater either - just my honest advice/opinion. If you really want to string him along... well, if you've got a heart, it'll only come back to make you feel permanently guilty later on.2