I tend to back off a guy if it seems like there's competition because I don't see why he'd make me compete for his affections if I was worth anything. It also seems like the moment i make the smallest mistake he will just pick someone else in line. I just don't see the point of throwing myself at a guy with a bunch of other chicks just pining for his attention only for him to not give me the time of day while he gets an ego boost. If a guy basically made me fight for him like that I'd let him go. Does that basically make me a loser?
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Uhhh Definitely not. Any guy who makes you compete with another female for his attention has serious self-esteem and ego issues. THAT IS A RED FLAG. Chances are, he will ALWAYS make you feel like you need to compete for his attention even if you end up in a relationship. This is so unhealthy because you probably won't feel like you can just be vulnerable, open, and upfront about your flaws and shortcomings. Guys who encourage that type of bullsh*t are reducing the emotional and mental level of intimacy they experience with females.
You're not a loser girl: YOU HAVE SELF-RESPECT. You respect your time, your attributes, your gifts, and your collective self more than to be some pawn in some playing loser's little game. I am so proud of you for doing that for yourself and having the right attitude! Good for you for being strong, confident, and not letting this narcissists' f*cked up mentality on dating hurt your self-esteem. HE'S A LOSER and he needs to find a hobby more healthy and more productive besides pitting females against each other so he can stroke his ego! How lame!0