Alright, so I really do not like myself honestly. I have a lot of problems with self-confidence and self-esteem, and I know that girls just don't want to be with me or someone like me. I'm not blaming them by any means, it's just the way the world works. I always feel worse whenever someone says, "all you need is confidence!" or, "it's all about loving yourself!" and other stuff like that. Why? Because I feel like it's my fault that I am the way I am. I was wondering if other people wished that attraction was just based on looks, because while it's kinda shallow and doesn't allow people to go "out of their league", it wouldn't be my fault that someone doesn't like me. It wouldn't be personal, it'd just be genetics.
Do you wish that attraction was based solely on looks? Why not?
What Girls Said 5
Attraction is based solely on looks. The personality comes into play if you'd actually go for that person. There are some guys I find very attractive that I would never go for because I don't like their personality but there are other guys that I find attractive enough to consider and their personalities make me want to be with them.0
No I wouldn't like it if attraction was based on physical, because I might not be able to date the person I was attracted to0
No? The relationship would get boring after a month.0
Nope because I'd be SOL if that were the case lol0
No because if you have absolutely no kind of personality or uniqueness then you won't be as fun to be around0
What Guys Said 1
sounds like a terrible alternate reality to live in. In that reality, its highly likely that you would change the source of your depression from "ugh, i have no confidence, so i can't get women" to "ugh im so ugly, so i can't get women". I doubt that you would just magically jump out of your depression simply because the main cause of your problem changes. At the end of the day, your main problem (acute singleness) remains the same, and you will not be happy0
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