So I've been reading a few questions lately and it got me thinking that there really seems to be no such thing as superficial anymore, from what I'm seeing these days. It seems like every choice that a person has towards what their partner should look like is rationalized down to personal preference. Do you think the word superficial have a place anymore when it comes to dating selection today? I've also noticed too that girls seem to be able to get away with it much easier than guys can.
The two things that girls seem the least flexible on are height and race, and for the most part they are allowed to chalk it up to personal preference without much fuss. I'm fine with that, as long as the non-fuss is equal between the genders. But god forbid that a guy has something like a racial preference and it seems like all hell breaks loose. So my question is, is there a line anymore between personal preference and plain old superficial, or have we done away with the latter word?
- Yes, there are no more "superficial" choices in dating anymore. It's all personal preferenceVote A
- No, being superficial cannot be rationalized down to personal preferenceVote B
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The difference between superficiality and preference is that you will turn down anyone who doesn't match all your list when you're superficial while you can still find people attractive who don't exactly match your list when you just have a preference. Superficiality is inflexible, a requirement and exclude most people. Preference isn't a requirement.
I can't say much about race, because that's never been a priority to me. But yeah, I do care about height. My ideal is between 5'9 and 5'11, but I've been attracted to men taller than that range as well as shorter than that range. That's when you notice it's just that, a preference you made up when you played 'build your perfect man' when you were young.0