so I have been dating this guy for 2 months. He go out a lot. He pays for everything (I offer too) he bought me chocolates and a teddy bear for vday. Asks me to spend the night even if we don't have sex. Just to cuddle.
Everything seemed to be going great. We talk for hours. It's prefect. Then he told me he got a phone call on Sunday. He went to Puerto Rico (where he is from) 4 months ago (before we met) and had sex with an old girlfriend that now turns out to be pregnant.
That changed everything. I hadn't brought up the "what are we talk " because I trusted him. Knew I was the only one he was dating. And just didn't want to put that pressure on something that was going so great.
But when he told me about the baby. I freaked out. Asked him what he wanted with him. What were his plans. Etc. That I didn't want to get hurt because I was having feelings for him and I also didn't want to waste my time. i don't know what happened to me. He clearly told me he didn't know what he wanted. But he cared about me.
I apologized the next day for overreacting and he was being distant. He said I was right the only one that will end up getting hurt is me and he didn't want to keep me waiting for a future he was unsure about, that I have been super sweet to him and it would just be unfair.
I told him to just put that whole situation aside and to let time tell but I just needed him to be honest with me.
I haven't brought up the subject again. But I have noticed him distant a little. I'm thinking about just cutting off sex and all of that and treating him just like a friend since we aren't official or anything. I'm starting to really fall for this guy and everything was going great and now I feel like I needed it up because I freaked out about the baby. But it's mostly because all of his answers were "I don't know"
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How do I get my girlfriend to fuck me? That's essentially what you're asking. It's the same concept, just reversed gender-wise.
So. What determines whether or not you'll fuck a guy? Or, better yet, what determines you *not* wanting to fuck a guy? Then think about it from his perspective with your answers to those questions, then apply them to committing, instead of fucking.
Some research into human sexuality wouldn't hurt, either.
Just a heads up. See what happens when you cut a guy off from sex and he's already not wanting to commit to you. If he has options, he'll be out the muthafuckin' do' sooner than you can say, "jk, you can fuck me".0