So i'm 21 and in college and all the guys i met are the same... they just want to have fun and party all the time and move from hot girl to hot girl. I mean don't get me wrong it's not like i am asking them to marry me right away or anything like that but i'm just tired of dating and I want to experience something real and to have a "real connection" with a guy you know? what am i doing wrong?
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Everything that kheserthorpe said was right on, but one part he didn't mention was that college is a "perfect storm" of many things coming together at the same time for guys:
- Right in the middle of their sexual peak years (about 16-25)
- Away from parents, usually for the first time.
- Newly adults, having lots of new privileges
- College has the highest-concentration of similar-age single women they'll ever encounter.
- As adults, they'll probably never have as much free time or as few responsibilities.
Guys very much realize this, and most intend to take full advantage of this window of their lives to have as much fun, and get with as many girls as they can. They're in Party Mode and the last thing many of them want is to be tied down or to have obligations or expectations on them. As kheserthorpe stated, the more attractive they are and the better their ability to get girls, the less they're likely to be interested in a relationship (obviously there will be some exceptions).
There will always be shy or less attractive/less skilled-with-women guys out there who DO want a relationship, but most girls aren't interested in those guys. They want the hot, outgoing, confident, guys, but those guys aren't generally into relationships - they want to get in as much fun and partying as they can before their college days are done.2