My whole dating life, I have had one guy commit to me. I don't know how or why. He was amazing, a famous sportsman in his country and extremely good looking. I was a nerdy girl, simple and yes beautiful but hardly aware of it or cocky about it. However, besides him.. no guy has ever wanted to get into a relationship stage with me, usually I let them know straight up that all I want is something that can lead to something more and I don't mess around. Most of course drop it and then there are the few who genuinly seem interested. They are consistent, text me regularly, make plans, flirt, compliment, get close, share personal things, and basically invest in the pursuit. This sometimes lasts 3 months, 6 months or so much as a year. But when it comes down to defining it, they always say they don't want anything. I am a big believer of the fact that if a man REALLY likes you, he will commit. meaning, no guy has ever really liked me (even when some have said they loved me). I swear, no red flags and yet.. I'm not the one for them. I don't want to ever fall in love again and I might start casually dating just to satisfy myself really. I have never done it before but I definitely won't invest in anything anymore since the next guy won't commit to me either and I am saying this after the process of self-improvement, introspection, asking exes etc. But isn't it true? That when a guy says he doesn't want a relationship, it just means with that particular girl? Why do guys even bother investing in something they don't really want anyway? Especially if they know the girl won't sleep with them unless she is in a relationship? I just want to understand what has been happening. I know I can't get a guy for something serious and I have never been interested in messing around but I think its all I have a chance at so I'll just go for that. P. S I'm social, beautiful (everyone says it), kind and intelligent, ambitious, independent, goofy and down to earth. I'm a regular person
Is it true that if a guy loves a woman, he will commit to her no matter what?
What Guys Said 4
Sure we do, if we're really into that person. If there's a genuine connection and I feel like I've found my best friend then it's totally possible.0
What Girls Said 1
Not that I like to put a time limit on it, but if I'd dated a guy for 4 months and he's said nothing about a label I'd leave it non serious and date other people too.
I think the issue where you are is you're talking to guys who you have little to no connection with, and telling then in 'insert time frame' you want commitment. Men don't like to think that way, men like freedom or at least to feel like they are free. You can't force feelings or commitment, I think those guys don't like the fact you're trying to rush them from the get go. That creates unnecessary pressure.
Is there a reason why you can't just date to enjoy dating and if it gets somewhere/more serious then it does. I would advice dating multiple people.0
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