So there's this friend of mine who broke up with a really great guy, because she wanted to explore the world (and for other flimsy reasons). This guy and her are perfect for each other, he worships her, despite his busy schedule he finds all the time in the worlds to make sure he keeps communication open.
And now she's dating again, and this new guy is the wrong person for her emotionally, quality of life, integrity-wise. I mean there's a very sad and terrible heart break waiting to happen...I feel i should warn her
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I just leave her be. Unless he's being physically abusive to her and I fear for her actual safety, I don't feel like it's my place to interfere. Let her ride it out, and hopefully, as emotionally devastating as it will likely become, some people just need to learn the hard way by experiencing it first hand.
Trying to say something to get them to do otherwise will more often than not, do not good in reality.
You trying to intervene will likely lead to her turning against you, as she, blinded by love, will think you're jealous, a know-it-all, etc., versus just trying to help.
I had a similar case with my now former best friend. She started seeing a guy who she was infatuated with like crazy from the start. Problem being he was super flaky, rarely showed up to dates on time if at all, and when he did it would be sex and very minimal conversation. She lost her virginity to him, and I'd have to sit and listen to her emotional roller coaster of being 'very in love', to miserable when she'd clean the house, cook him dinner and he'd fail to show up as well as even let her know he wouldn't make it.0