My fiances mom makes these really good brownies. I asked her for the recipe because I feel comfortable with her since I have known her for 5 years now and we see her just about every week. I started off by saying you make the best brownies which she does I wasn't just feeding her bs would I be able to have the recipe to try it or we can make them together next time. I said no worries I will still give you the credit since its your recipe because I didn't want her to think I was stealing her thunder. She just said sorry its a family recipe. Ouch i even suggested making them with her. I didn't say anything after she said that because honestly I was shocked I thought we were.close and she would love the idea of making them together to bond. I am about to marry her son so I thought I was family. I could understand if we didn't get along that well but we are close. It just seemed like an abrupt answer I just thought she could have been like hey I'm not ready to give out the recipe yet but why don't we make them together. My fiancé said he was shocked by his mom's response and he is going to talk to her about it later. His idea not mine. It really hurt my feelings. Do I have a right to feel hurt?
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Yep, I think you stepped on her toes there. No matter how good things are between any mother and her daugher-in-law to be, the mom always feels like the girl is taking away her son. So there is always a sliver of resentment, no matter what. And so begins the competitiveness between mom and daughter in law about who is the best. Even though this is not your intention, there are just some things better off left alone. His mother will feel like you are stealing her thunder. She feels like you are trying to one-up her. Making those brownies is something she is really good at and everyone likes them and appreciates her for them. It is one way for her to feel needed and wanted. By you wanting to take the recipe is the same as pushing her aside so you can be the best brownie maker. This is all just silliness, but feelings can be hurt. So in the end, to save face, let her have her brownie glory and you find something else to bond with her.0