So these two things connect but are independent of each other in some ways. I have always had heartbreak and rejection. No guy has ever wanted to commit to me, I have already posted questions on that topic before and basically it doesn't make sense. Guys seem commited, no red flags but they never really want to get serious with me. So I gave up on love because I no longer have the capacity to take the risks and heartbreak in order to potentially meet someone. My experiences have also programmed me to think every single guy who dates, pursues me etc will eventually bolt when we head towards a relationship. I am beautiful (hot as guys like to say), fashionable (classy as most people say), intelligent (PhD), social (many friends from around the world), goofy (have a great sense of humour and am witty), down to earth (I am extremely compassionate) and easy-going. Of course I have flaws and yes perhaps very little self-esteem left since no guy has ever considered me worth being in a relationship with (except one). At the same time, my parents want me to meet someone and settle down.This is perhaps because they see I can't get anyone and am always single so they want me to meet someone and marry young. Tbh at this point,I don't mind that since I don't want to fall in love anyway. But I still have difficulty with the whole situation. How should I learn to be more happy about it all?I want to marry because I have always wanted children and i want to give them a family.So I want to marry a guy who is the same as me, wants a partnership but not necessarily marrying for love.P.S I know it sounds sad to all you romantics.But plenty of people settle down for reasons other than love,I have had an open heart, soul and mind for years.So the chances of finding someone now when I gave up is probably nil and I don't want it anyway anymore.
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Take life slow and don't deal with your parents. It takes a lot of time to get confidence back about love and if it's real or if you'll ever be loved. Have an open mind and try to have a positive outlook on life, I don't know if I believe this considering my love life is non existent but I've seen many relationships where people aren't looking for love and one day, whether it's when they're 25 or 50 years old, love falls into their laps. Don't just marry for other reasons, if you don't find someone who you truly love and who has the audacity to love you back then don't marry them. Life is amazing and should be cherished, I know it horribly sucks sometimes but when you find the right person and have kids or something, life suddenly becomes brighter and it's 100% worth it.0
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