I have come out of a ten year marriage 5 months ago, the marriage should have ended years ago and I had probably checked out of a long time ago.
Roll forward I decided to attend a speed dating lunch time event to meet people male and female in a restaurant where we all sat and chatted our good food and wine.
Now being tall and blonde I have a certain presence but I was very nervous. This guy walks in shorter but something about him.
He sits opposite but not directly and after a few minutes I notice an accent, the same accent from the country I am from. We start talking, I feel bad for the other ladies. After the event 5 of us stayed and drank wine. This guy is up front and asks me if I would consider dating a shorter man. Of course I found funny, sexy I had no problem dating a man shorter than me.
So we leave with another person go to a bar, cocktails following by a bar with life music we danced the night away. We went back to his place. It was great. We had breakfast at a cafe the next day and later on he picked me up for a wonderful date.
He's coming over for dinner tomorrow night. I just am scared of getting emotionally invested.
I don't want to get married again but would love to have the company of someone.
What are you views on his actions...a player or am I having trouble trusting??
We click in every way.
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Well, there are no red flags there... but then, you haven't told us much :p
Go on a few dates, do things you enjoy (yes, you're allowed to enjoy sex if you want to), and have a few of your friends meet him in-person. Ask *them* for their take, whether dating him seems like a good idea. (pick friends with some judgement, eh?) And listen to them.
Because GaG isn't actually going to meet him :) But having someone outside the relationship can be damn valuable, as you're aware.0