1ST GUY(Feb14)He just broke up with his girlfriend the day before we met. At a bar. We danced and kissed, but we also talked a lot. We were both sober.
I just found out that my friend hooked up with a guy 2 nights ago who turned out to be THE GUY that I hooked up with about a month ago. Feb 14. I don't know if I should be mad or jealous or laughing at the situation. We met at a bar and it was the day after he broke up with his girlfriend, but he seemed nice.
--------2ND GUY I like this guy and it seems that he likes me back. He considered asking me to be his girlfriend only after 2 weeks we've met and hung out. I don't know if it is all going too fast. Am I supposed to wait it out until I've developed feelings towards him? I really like him, and I like spending time with him. I'm just not on that stage where I'm "in love" with him already. I actually told him that if I'd have known him for more than 2 weeks, I would have said YES. He says "ok, 2 more weeks it is. :)" and I said "ok then, I'll act surprised" He's really a sweet and funny guy. It's just that I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't really know what's up.
A quick update though: we've kissed and made out. And stuff. Now he also already knows that I am still a virgin. What bothers me is the idea that he might be only considering me to be his girlfriend to get "dibs" on, well, you know what.
------I'M TORN BETWEEN 2 GUYS AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. 1ST GUY and I talked on the phone last night for over an hour, and just got to know each other and laughed and flirted a bit. He asked me to go out with him sometime. But I said that I'm exclusively seeing someone. Then I got the vibe that he just felt rejected. He then said that he has to sleep early for an exam tomorrow, and asks me if I won't get in trouble if he calls me. I then said that I would love for him to call me whenever he wants.
I'm so confused because I had a totally different connection with him than 2ND GUY. 2ND GUY and I never talk that long on the phone, we never joke as much, and we never had serious and deep conversations. On the other hand, 1ST GUY was very much interested in what I take in school, my crappy jokes, and how we both want to consider psychology and acting/filming in the future.
Now I'm confused about how I feel towards 1ST and 2ND GUY. I don't know what their intentions are, but I feel that if I asked them early at this point, they'd freak out (knowing how guys can have commitment issues).
I'm looking for a serious relationship and I feel so vulnerable. I need your opinions on this guys, please.
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A couple of things on this:
1) guys that kiss you in a bar the night that you meet them only seem nice. He's likely only after a couple of things, neither of which you should give him. He's definitely right to feel rejected, because that's exactly what I'd have thought. But I think that's probably what he should get.
2) it doesn't seem like you know what you want. And I agree with nique23 - you should take a few steps back from both of these guys. There's a lot of stuff at stake for you right now. Keep your virginity - it shouldn't be given away on anything close to a coin toss, or a "he'll do".
Wait for the guy who is willing to wait for you and respect you enough to lead you in the way you need and want to be led. Wait until you're ready to make a lifelong commitment (i. E. Marriage), and then have all the fun you can muster with your husband. He'll love you all the more for it and honor your self-control and commitment to purity. Don't buy into the junk that people say about needing 'experience'. The right guy will give you all the experience you want, and it'll totally be worth it because you won't have any other jackass clouding your vision or confusing you with emotional scars and bad memories.
If you feel vulnerable, it's because you are. Be safe, keep your cards close to your vest, and don't feel rushed into anything. That's how bad decisions are made, and where regret gets its roots.0