I can honestly say I have never felt an instant connection with anyone. So it never plays into my decision making when dating. I have had other people tell me they felt it with me. Some assumed I felt it back and some weren't sure. As I have gotten older it seems as if women have gotten better at seeing that. Which is now posing a problem for my dating life. I can develop feelings but it doesn't happen quickly for me.
So is this instant connection a requirement for you? If not, how long do you give it to see if any feelings develop?
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I've felt like I was on the same wavelength personality wise enough to want to keep meeting with the person. Not just in dating - even with friends or coworkers. But not that "lightning bolt" thing people talk about. Though a jolt of attraction helps push things along in dating!0