Just as the question says, there are plenty of times where I see a girl that is off the scale at least when it comes to looks. I have a hard time already talking to girls that I might think are average. How can I approach these girls without coming off as a complete loser and actually having some type of success? Also hopefully keeping them?
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Hey man, aside from a very small population (the genuine professional female model population), leagues are subjective on the most part.
Have you never seen a beautiful girl, told your mates how incredibly cute and sexy she is, only to have them answer that she's a 6 or 7 at most?
It's the same the other way around. If you take good care of yourself, are not too over or underweight, you're probably an 8 for some girls, or a 3 for other girls.
Now the interesting part is what happens when you met a girl, that you see as an 8, and who sees you as an 8 or 9?
You could easily be intimidated and think you'd have no chance. And leave the girl disappointed.
That's why you should ideally treat every girl you're interested in as if their looks were nothing. As if you're not easily impressed. Keep in mind that she might not be interested for a lot of reasons.
You must never show any sign that you think she's out of your league. It's usually game over if you do, no matter how attractive or unattractive the girl is. Instead, act, (or better, think or KNOW) that leagues are subjective, and that she might find you more handsome than you think you are. Also, even the models, the 10, have insecurities about something.
But as a man, you're NOT allowed to have insecurities if you want to be successful. Got big lips? It's way better for her when she kisses you. Got a huge nose? It only serves to make you attainable otherwise you'd be way too sexy.
You get the point. Maybe you'll read this and think that's easy to say, but if you OWN those things, the girl won't even see it or care about it.
I have small eyes and used to be insecure about it. Turned out quite a few girls said they loved it, that it was sexy and mysterious. Now I'm totally convinced that's the case.1