How do i treat a woman in a way she would want to be treated? Do i do the traditional gentlemanly things or are those things considered semi sexist today? If i should be a gentleman what kind of things should i do? Should i pull chairs for her, and get up when she gets up at a table or does that go to far? How should i make sure i treat her as an equal but also be gentlemanly to her?
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Hey, it's VERY important for you not to go over the top.
I'd say slow down on the "gentlemanly" things.
Opening doors for her is fine. Giving her your jacket is probably too much, unless she already likes you a lot. Don't get up for her.
Well what I mean is, so far, I've been way more successful NOT acting gentlemanly (aside from opening doors, which is normal for me), than when I tried gentleman moves. The girl I treated as a gentleman ended up telling me she was used to guys treating her like shit.
Anyway, I think acting gentlemanly won't win over the girl for you.
I think you're safe with just opening doors, escorting her back to her car or to the subway, you could tell her you'll escort her to her place, make sure she gets home safe, that kind of stuff.
But that's just my experience, maybe some other people had more luck with that kind of thing.