I feel like relationships are a lot of work... so I haven't been in one for awhile.
I was just talking to a buddy some time since he broke up with his ex. He explained it like so: "Man she was a great girl, but she didn't put any work in." I'm like doh... I know this girl and understand her personality to some degree and she seems a lot like me. We work at what we're good at and in relationships we expect people to just accept us the way we are.
My buddy was also telling me about his new girlfriend and how he doesn't have to worry about anything and it's really mellow -- the relationship takes care of itself. He said something like, "it's so effortless and we get along really well all the time." So here I am just waiting to meet her and being happy for him. But I'm also like... why the hell is it so easy for everyone else to pick their person? For me, I either have to put in a lot of effort just to get turned down 100 times or a girl has to put in a lot of effort and well that never happens.
Can I find a relationship were neither of us have to work very hard outside of school and work?
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Relationships require effort, but it doesn't really feel like work to me because *I* want to, and enjoy, doing things with and for my partner, and I also receive back everything that I give. We both do nice things for each other, we both take each other out, we both put effort into working through any problems that may come up, and so on.1