sometimes i feel like i have given up on dating and guys, but the problem is that i haven't really done it at all, never seriously dated or been in a relationship. I have gone on dates and i have had guy interested, and i have been interested in guys, but it never ever works out. I can't really pinpoint what goes wrong, but i have kinda come to a point where i'm not bothered to make an effort to look nice, i wear baggy clothes and i dont really make an effort to do my hair either.
A part of me thinks that i don't have anyone to impress, i look what i look like and if guys dont like it thats their problem and we aren't a match. But then another part of me know that guys are visual creatures and today's society is very vain and shallow, so very dolled up people is what people in general want and are attracted to.
i guess i feel like everytime i do make an effort, either its by showing more interest in a guy or just wearing more flattering clothes it never leads to something positive like the relationship working out or me getting more male attention. So therefore i don't make a lot of effort to really approach and get to know guys i like or to look a certain way
I dont know what to do.. i feel like i will never seriously date anyone...
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I dont imagine your not the only one but i hope my opinion helps.
First dont dress up for the guys attention. Maintain a comfortable that you like. If u dont enjoy getting all dressed up then dont. Some men are atracted to a casual confident look. If it is a man you seek however getting attention with some basic upkeep things or a single flashy article. Whether a hat or scarf or shirt are all great.
A relationship can be a great thing for some people. You sound very independant and i assume are not a person who neeeds a relationship.
Live your life and like u said a man will apreciate u for you.
When im newly single or newly looking for a female i put in the effort for a week or two just to ensure a clean image at minimum.
If u desire to seriously date someone then they must be serously desireable. If none of the men you find yourself engaging with perk your interest enough for you to care about future encounters then they aren't what your after. To change the ones who will see u or approach u image change is crutial whether wearing a more or less flashy something or messy or cleaner hair. Tweaki g your image will atract different males.
I hope u give a relationship a chance and if u consider the option try a relationship with a guy based on mutual interests. A guy you can engage with about your life things.
Your a strong individual and dont need a companion. I recommend you looking for a special male who perks your life more then th others... You will know this man when he presents himself to you.
Oh and overly dolled up is only attractive to some. I've never enjoyed wome. That looked like i could pull the mask off their face
What exaclty are you "making up" for?0