25 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never been kissed, never held hands and never been on a date. Society and friends always tell us males that we need to get with as many girls as possible and being a virgin and never having a girlfriend is the lowest status you can be as a man. I feel ashamed of myself for still being a inexperienced, kissless virgin at my age. Everyone I know has lost their V card already and are in long term relationships and I feel left out of something that is a major part of life. Friends of mine who have absolutley nothing going for them and are not exactly the most attractive seem to have women all over them, yet I don't even get as much as a second look. I feel inadequate and defective.
I will admit I do get nervous around *some* women, not all, but I don't have the faintest idea on how to flirt or chat up girls, it's just not something I've ever been good at. Despite this, women just don't seem to find me attractive. I have attempted to ask women out on dates in the past but they always reject me with the "you're such a nice guy but I like you as a friend" routine. I took the early rejections in my stride but after 15 attempts I decided to give up. It's been nothing but a sting of failures and embarrassment.
From what I hear being inexperianced is a huge turn off for women and I know they would just leave me if I told a girl I was interested the truth, so it's a catch 22 situation. It has effected me that much that sometimes I think maybe I should just shut myself off from the world and go and become a priest and live a life of celibacy, I have also contemplated suicide. My best male friend is the only one who knows about my prediciment and has suggested I hire an escort to get experience, but that costs money, something I don't have much of at the moment.
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Sure yeah, just go to a prostitute or join a hookup site... Tinder, POF and okcupid can accomplish that for you. But I think that what you lack is self-respect. And no amount of hooking up will give you that. I'm 22 and virgin. I could probably change that if I wanted to, but I value purity. Which leads me to: you can't be a priest with such lustful mind (I know you're just joking about that). Focus your energy in building a life for yourself and the rest will come to you.1