So a guy I've known for about two years and I have been talking. We dated for a month or two last summer, but we broke it off because of schoolwork and actual work getting in the way. Before we were dating, we said "I love you" a lot, there were a few petnames, and conversations would go on for hours on end -- sometimes from 8AM until midnight.
We still go on like that, and we have discussed dating again briefly. We call each other petnames on occasions, we still say we love each other -- all and all, we act like a couple.
We know each other's pasts, secrets, and fears. We're like peas in a pod, I guess. We share interests. We have differences, too, such as religion.
And it's hard for both of us to say "I love you" mainly because we have both been hurt because of that word.
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It's not weird that it is hard for you to say the word when you are not in a relationship. It is an admission of a level of care that leaves you vulnerable. And having been hurt already, you clearly want to avoid that.
You are really young, so you will be changing a lot year by year. If things didn't quite work last year, but you two have stayed really good friends, then it may be worth giving it one more try. The thing that may snag you up long-term could actually be the religious differences. That one can be hard for some people to get past long-term, if both parties are not really open to communication, examination, and varying viewpoints.
Talk about it with him. See what he thinks about all of this. I would lean towards giving it a try, but you should keep in mind that you do risk the friendship if you do it. If you start dating and it ends really badly, the friendship can be destroyed. The fact that it survived once doesn't mean it will survive again. So that's something to factor in to your decision.0