This cute girl got hired at work, but in another department, we work in retail. I started talking to her and making a point to show I was interested. I always wait too long to ask out a girl, I have horrible timing, or I find out she's taken. This girl is single, and she made sure to let me know. I decided to take a gamble and ask her out. Unfortunately, I wasn't as suave as I wanted to be. I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime outside of work. She said, "Maybe, what did you have in mind?" I said dinner this Saturday night. She seemed uninterested in my suggestion and then proceeded to give me an excuse for being busy. I said that was okay. I talked to her a bit more after that, but I didn't want to push it. I tried to play it off. After thinking about her response, I realized that maybe she would have been open to do something else. She didn't flat out reject me. I'm not ready to give up so easily either, but now I get anxious when I'm around her. Then I found out she told some of our coworkers about it. I felt embarrassed. Do I still have a shot with her? Should I just be upfront about my anxiety, and tell her that she makes me nervous?
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There is a saying that clearly spells out guys mistakes with girls. "Women don't lie, men don't listen. Her response to you asking for a date was crystal clear if you took the time to listen and not let your ego trip you up. Part of the problem with men not understanding what a woman is trying to say is that they use a language not easily understood by men. It's called
"womanese." Once a man becomes even slighty fluent in the language, women become less of a mystery.
So on to your case. When asking a woman out on a date, any answer other than yes means no. Guys miss this important clue because they don't understand the speak. When she answered, "maybe" you were dead in the water. You didn't have a chance! But you still refused to accept what she was saying by thinking "She didn't flat out reject me," and that "I'm not ready to give up so easily..." She wants nothing to do with you romantically. But like most men you will not accept this and return for more embrassment and another beating.
I recommend you stop wasting your time on this woman and move on another one that is more receptive to your advances. Next time keep your ears open and your eyes peeled for that not well understood language that these beautiful women speak. Women don't lie, men don't listen.