I haven't had much luck with dating, I didn't have my first date until I was 20 (less than a year ago) and of the few girls I've dated only one went on more than one date with me... never had a girlfriend, not even in school.
Anyway I think I'm making some progress in terms of how well they dates feel like they've gone and in reducing the time between girls agreeing to go on a date with me (which is important as so far they've all lost interest fairly quickly, so I think the more girls I can date the better). So I'm not giving up on dating, and I think some of my problems are personality issues I need to change, however obviously being overweight isn't going to be helping - I don't see why a girl would want me as a boyfriend at the moment even if I had normal social skills.
So my question is should I stop investing time in dating for the moment and concentrate on getting fit in my spare time, then go back to dating in few months?
General suggestions/advice would be welcome.
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If they can not love us at our worst they do not deserve us at our best. Just a simple phrase to remember when dating. I could say get healthy for you and not another person but its not always that simple. Honestly what ever the reason you are getting fit is a good reason. But as to how it applies to your dating life, it doesn't! Just go out their and date. Trust me a relationship built on mutual friendship goes so much further than most of the ones built on mutual attraction. Just balance your time between dating and getting in shape. Dates are a few hours a week. Getting healthy is every meal and an hour of exercise a day. I was in the same boat as you I didn't date anyone until I was 21. I was over weight and a huge stereotypical socially awkward nerd. Have you tried online dating? That helped me a lot. You can find someone you get along with much faster and break the ice before you ever have to meet eye to eye.0