Okay so I met this girl about a month ago and I've really started to like her and I know she likes me and I want to date her. The thing is though that I've slept with 2 of her coworkers, relatively recently. I asked one to keep it quiet and I know she can be trusted but she'll probably find out about the other one. I'd really like transparency but not if it costs me the girl. I'm not very promiscuous, I'm turning 23 soon and they're only the second and third women I've had sex with and they came onto me but they're both at least acquaintances with her, arguably friends. They were just flings and there's no lingering feelings on my part at least. They work in a big department of about 100 people so they're not with each other 24/7, I work in the same building but rarely see them. Girls, would you still be willing to date a really sweet guy if you found out he's had sex with your coworkers?
- I wouldn't really care if it was just sex16% (16)
- I would care but I'd look past it37% (38)
- I could live with 1 but not 214% (14)
- I wouldn't date a guy whose slept with any of my coworkers33% (35)
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This happened to me once. I began dating a guy years ago, and some stupid broad I worked with found out and in passing just said, "Oh yeah, I've been there done that," and smiled. It was that real bitch-like smile where she wasn't saying it to wreck my relationship, she just wanted to have that one-upping, gee-ain't-it-a-small-world type of short conversation. I was very irritated that she had done this, and I actually felt more sorry for my boyfriend that he spent any time with her at all. I asked him about it, and he rolled his eyes like she had been a mistake (that was obvious), and I just thought it was wasted effort on her part. What ever she was trying to accomplish, whether it was to let me know she had something before me, or was having sex at all (she was sort of moose-like in appearance), maybe she was out to impress me with her great ability to get a man before other women did. Point is that I felt bad for my boyfriend and decided not to talk to her again unless it was work related. Being that sort of gossipy type, I knew anything I said whatsoever was going to be repeated. I'm sure she did tell others at work that she slept with him and was waiting for my reaction or to come back with stories for her or anyone else at work for that matter, but I never did.
She can now live with the memory that she was a blabbermouthing bitch and I was the one who ended up having something better than a one night stand with the guy that was never worth telling her details about, nor speaking to her again. I know people like that hate nothing more than being ignored and just not being in the know with stuff. It probably got her curious about how I got further with him than her and why we kept to ourselves after that. :)2
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