A long story short. The guy I met and dated 2 years ago for a short time recently came back into my life. When it ended it just ended. Communication stopped and it was over. Now we've gone on a couple dates and everything is amazing when we're together. Outside of that, I rarely hear from him. He says he's not a fan of texting. So I refrain from that a lot with him. He rarely uses social media so I refrain from that. We're both busy with careers. We see each other maybe twice a week which to me is acceptable. It's the lack of communication that kills me. He knows, because I've told him, communication is key with me. I could easily have all the same feelings for him again, but I stop myself because he puts little effort in said communication when we're not together. When we're face to face it's amazing. What I want to know is, from a guys point of view, does your lack of communication when your apart show lack of interest? And if it doesn't, what would be the best way for me to approach this should our relationship advance?
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You didn't explain why you two broke up the first time and why you think you won't encounter the same problems again. That is a problem that you need to address.
You've known each other long enough to justify having a serious talk with him. "This is what I wan my life to be like 10 years from now. . . married. . . kids. . . whatever. . . description of relationship with husband, etc. Where do you see yourself 10 years from now and do our dreams and hopes match up?"
Obviously, if he is hiding something from you, that is important information, but even if he isn't. . . whatever his reason is for being this way, you are not comfortable with it. You can't expect to ever change him, so, are you willing to accept him like this for the rest of your life? If not, every day you spend with him is wasted.0