I had an argument with a guy, who I really liked. It was really a misunderstanding as both our views clashed. We had a lot to drink and we disagreed on a few things. He kept telling me that I was wrong, which angered me and made me say a few things (generalisations etc)
Anyway, I didn't hear from him after I met him. I decided to reach out to him 2 days later and said thanks for the date. He replied back and said it was fun. I sent him a happy birthday text 2 weeks later but got no reply.
I then heard from a mutual friend, that he had made up rumours about me and said a bunch of things about me. I even saw that he had statuses on fb on how I had wronged him, how I was wrong etc.
I haven't been able to sleep properly for the past few days now because I'm so sad about how things ended between us and because I keep thinking about him. I really liked him but on our date he kept arguing with me, because I had different views. I just keep thinking about him all the time now..
What should I do? He doesn't reply to my text messages, even the bday one. Should I leave him alone and move on?
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I think you need to apologize about your behavior. But, I think he needs to as well. However, don't go fishing for apologies, because it makes your apology seem insincere. So, go to him and apologize honestly. No but's, no explanations, no rationalizations. Just apologize and tell him how you felt doing that, and that you had to apologize to him, and then wait for a response. If it is anger, just listen to his pain. It may be difficult, but be empathetic about it. Then tell him that you now understand that he feels like (repeat what he just said) and then say that you would feel the same way. That is why it was wrong and that you needed to correct it. A lot of times people will calm down and realize that you are trying to make it right, and then that unblinds them too and then they will see that they did wrong as well. If he doesn't apologize then, don't get angry, let it go. You both were drunk, so it shouldn't be too big of a deal.
Just a word of warning: if this guy is continuously bitter when someone wrongs him, then it would be a difficult relationship if you have to go through this, so keep that in mind.0