Ladies, i ask this because in reality, I've never really been a "real" date before. Being single since I was 13. About my entire dating or romance life. I've learned to pick up and fend for myself. Do you think it's selfish for me to think like that?
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No not at all. Some girls might expect it simply because you're the guy. If she does, she can't call herself a feminist. If she wants to be treated equally then she can't expect chivalry. Depends on the type of girl you want to date?
Some will say whoever asks should pay. My personal view is that, if someone asks me on a date and I accept, I accept because liked him and I want to spend time with him. Not to get a free dinner out of it. That's the basic premise of a date to me anyway.
I don't get offended if someone insists on paying, I think it's a nice gesture by him but I certainly don't expect it. In addition, it does make me feel slightly uncomfortable. Firstly, I have been brought up to pay my way in life. Secondly, I don;t want someone paying for me, because sometimes they think it gives them a sense of entitlement. I prefer a relationship with mutual respect. Not expectation becasue someone has paid for dinner.
I always splits bills. With my ex he'd try and insist on paying. In the end with my ex, it go to the stage, if he got the cinema tickets, I paid for dinner, that type of thing. Some girls might expect it because you are the guy, some might expect it if you do the asking, some won;t expect it because they simply want to spend time with you and aren't using you as a meal ticket. It depends on the type of girl you ask on a date. Come to your on decision on what you feel comfortable doing and stick to it. If the girl has an issue with it, at least it's a quick way of figuring out if you two are compatable in your views and beliefs. This one actually says an awful lot about someone - might save you a lot of time on someone that actually has a very different outlook on things. Good luck!!!1
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