I don't want to sound vain but I am a very attractive girl both body and face wise, I get hit on all the time wherever I go and I get a lot of attention from guys, to the point that even my friends boyfriends ask for my number and flirt with me in front of them. I hate it because it causes so much tension with my friends and they don't like to bring me anywhere near their boyfriends or their crushes, even though I don't flirt back with them because I respect my friends. They also don't like going out with me to the club because I get too much attention.
And its not just friendship problems, I can't find a guy that takes me serious cause Im "hot", Im not cute, or beautiful. Im usually the girl most guys would "just fuck", not date. They end up not giving two shits about my personality. And I know most of these guys are jerks and players because they are the ones with enough confidence to approach me.
Whenever I talk to any normal guy they get too nervous and intimidated. Sometimes even they end up turning into jerks because Im not "dating material". And when I seem to find a good guy, their friends end up pushing him to "hit dat".
It was a time I was fine with it all because I felt beautiful and it was a major confidence boost but now its a nuisance because every time I talk to a guy, all they wanna do is fuck. I try to avoid the subject of sex as much as I can but they all bring it up.
I don't know what to do, its not that I dress a way that exposes my body. Whether it cover myself up or not doesn't seem to make any difference at all. Makeup or not doesn't make a difference. I do work out because its a hobby of mine, but I don't want to stop working out and lose my body that I've worked for.
How do I find serious guys that won't fall for me in lust but love? Im sick of ending up with people who just lust over me, and care of nothing else but my appearance. What can I do to make guys notice my personality and fall for me for who I am? Im sick of being used :/
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If you want people to notice your other qualities you need to put yourself in situations where people *can* notice them. Nobody goes to a bar, party, club, etc. to find a smart girl to date. Unless it's Trivia Night at the bar, in which case you can dazzle the guys present with your knowledge.
Anyhow, you're always going to have to weed through guys who just want to have sex with you. That's not exclusive to you because you happen to be exceptionally hot. Virtually every above-average-looking girl on the planet has to deal with guys who couldn't give a shit about who they are as a person. That you don't see your friends going through it is because you happen to be the one drawing the attention, but when you're not there they are dealing with the same thing.1