I went on a first date tonight with a guy I met online. We met at a bar, and in total the date lasted for 1.5 hours (until 11pm) I really enjoyed his company and he seemed to truly enjoy mine as he was laughing and the conversation was flowing easily. We had things to talk about. I really felt we had a connection. However, there was no overt flirtation or compliments.
As we were at a bar, he ordered a glass of wine for each of us, and when we finished he didn't order another or ask if I wanted one. We just sat for a half hour drinking nothing and talking, which I found odd and kind of rude of him not to offer. There was an empty water container at the table which he didn't ask to refill when I had been drinking a lot of water. When I came out of the bathroom for the second time, I discovered that he had paid the check and had his coat on ready to leave, saying it was a "school night" and he had work in the morning. When we walked out, I believe he was planning on just walking away until I stopped. At that point he gave me a very distant hug and said "Good meeting you, take care." I'm just really confused because why was he acting like he enjoyed himself the whole date (laughing, engaging in discussion, even staying 1.5 hours) if he didn't?
I feel so embarrassed by this apparent blow off and am left wondering what I did wrong on the date.
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As they say - online dating is the pits.
I've been on a few dates w/ girls I met online. Only one garnered a 2nd date. 1 other was great, me and the girl kept chatting but she flaked on the 2nd date and I began to ignore her (my bad maybe?)
The other 1 was just a couple weeks ago and from a girl who msg'd me first. It was pretty standard get to know each other convo for a couple hours. Kinda like yours, but we were on a better communication level for the drinks lol...
Anyway, it's confusing b/c she said she'd see me again, but when I asked her for a 2nd date, she said she was busy and didn't offer a reschedule. A week later (tonight) I called, but left a text instead of a voicemail asking her out this week and she has ignored me so far.
Point being, online dating is a whole different beast. The in-person part has to be absolutely amazing, I guess, for it to be compelling enough to make the person want to see you again. It's different than coworkers or friends of friends or even people you meet out in public where you meet the person before the 1st date. The first date is always kind of more jarring for online dating than when it's a "natural" date, so the standard is usually higher (or lower)...
I don't know... I feel you QA. This most recent one I've been snubbed by just has me thinking "what did i do wrong?" Even when girls message me first, I still can't seal the deal =\1