This is in regards to my interactions with women. I've had one official girlfriend that I've gone all the way with (that lasted about 4 months, and we didn't do it 'til month 3 when I finally brought it up) and have only gone to third base with one other girl (that lasted 2 weeks, on vacation, many years ago). I've now been single (but in a failing dating stage) for 6 years.
These days, I don't know what's wrong with me, but whenever I do date someone, I'm completely mental blocked to push for anything sexual at all. Subconciosuly I believe I'm going to offend people if I try to touch them a certain way (even if she's cuddling/spooing with me with I'm.. pretty sure... is an invitiation for more?)
I've screwed up a few relationships now where I either didn't esclate to touching, or if I did, nothing sexual. I don't understand what's stopping me, I want to, I'm usually pretty sure it will help move things along, but I have this insane mental block, imagining that I'm going to offend, or piss her off, or get called a perv (even though we're in private together).
Have I been mentally coniditioned to treat women with too much respect or something? I don't get it, and I don't know how to get over it, it's really put a hamper on my dating life. I'm an attractive guy I've been told and also that I'm funny by many people (randomly) but I just, can't, escalate. Why? Please don't say just get over it, it won't help. I'm a very confident person in my life and in my work, I'm always smiling and can put a smile on anyone's face, no matter how grumpy, but I am a dating failure it would seem.
Any opinions are much apprecatiated.
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I've been in your situation. I have a bad experience with one woman, so I try to "correct" my behavior with other women, and they end up frustrated because I'm not making the moves they want me to make. All I can really tell you is that when it feels like you have a connection, start doing a little more, then a little more, etc. She'll stop you when/if she's ready to hit the brakes.1