What am I doing wrong? I'll meet a nice guy and things will go well on the first date, but then we'll hookup on the second date and suddenly that's all they want to do. Why? What am I doing wrong? I'm a nice person and I'm attractive (so I've been told). I'm always really kind too. I have friends who like me, so I don't see why guys won't. What am I doing wrong? Is it the guys I'm attracting? Is it because I'm letting them treat me this way. It always goes the same way. I just don't understand what I need to change about myself.
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"Is it because I'm letting them treat me this way?"
Yes, you have the power to set your boundaries and let things go as far as YOU want them to. Now, if you're fine with going all the way early on, then fine. But it seems like you're feeling used and ignored afterwards, so if that's the case, then it's not fine.
Decide what you're really looking for in a person and pay attention to cues they give off when you're first talking to them. Also, you must pay attention to red flags, as they can come up early but are often dismissed by us because we're too caught up in the excitement of having fun to understand how detrimental these red flags can be later on. Signs of that are if they go overboard talking about sex or make insinuations about doing stuff with you you are not ready for or comfortable with.
I'm sure you're a very attractive woman, otherwise guys wouldn't be wanting to go out with you. However, if you're tired of the same chain of events happening like a re-run, then take a step back and see if you're saying "yes" when you mean "no". If a guy is going to get mad and act like he doesn't respect you for saying "no", then he's not going to respect you if you say "yes" out of fear you'll run him off, so you have to look out for yourself first.