I just don't think a man should always pay when going out on a date. I also don't think men should be expected to be the bread winner. If they are able and want to that is great, but I don't understand why it is wrong or emasculating a guy if a woman were to be the bread winner if she also has the higher degree and qualifications and the guy doesn't like his job. I also don't understand how it is fair that women will compain about the wage gap and expect to be treated 'the same as men' in society but when it comes to things like who pays on a date, and who is pampered, etc they always expect that to be the man's job. Both girls and guys have expressed how much they disagree with my mentality. One guy actually pushed my arm away when I tried to pay for dinner when we went out on a date and got mad at me for even trying... I was only trying to be nice. I knew he was dealing with a lot at the time and didn't think it was wrong to pay for once. Also, several times, when I have tried to hold a door open for a guy because I happened to walk in first, they have gotten insulted and some have made condescending remarks like "Well, thaaanks sweet heart" before laughing at me. A lot of guys think I am being unnatural and not very feminine for even bringing something like this up. And as for women, they think gender roles are there for a reason, etc. So what do guys on here think? What do you think about women who think like this? And would you ever date someone like me?
- I would not date a girl like thatVote A
- I would date a girl like thatVote B
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I am pretty old-fashioned and I love being a gentleman to a lady. And, to be honest, I have always been very well received by woman that way. After a few dates, however, I think it's pretty normal to trade off who pays, etc. and be a bit more lax about it. But, still, I will always open the door, carry the item, make certain that she is on the inside of the sidewalk, always allow to finish speaking (I do this anyway) etc. I take it as my responsibility to make her feel safe, taken care of, and loved. And , in doing so, always get back the respect, and so much more from her than I ever would have otherwise in the form of non-monetary rewards (and I am not referring just to sex). So, I prefer a woman who feels comfortable with gender roles, but not overly rigid, and certainly relaxing as the relationship grows. I would never push your hand away, or laugh at your for getting the door for me either! That's just ridiculous and shows little confidence in your date. Does all that make sense?1