It might be because I'm young but I've never really liked the idea of moving in with a SO but at the same time I have nothing against a committed relationship. I've always thought it'd be ideal if I lived in my apartment while they lived in there's. We would basically spend 4-5 nights a week being together so we'd really only sleep alone in our respective places for maybe 2-3 days a week. I like the idea of just having two separate places to live and having a little bit of privacy. I don't have anything to hide but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy actually having privacy. I also like picking them up and dropping them off in the night. Or if I have a home date it's nice preparing having the place to my own
I understand it would cost us half the money to live together but I just feel that isn't as ideal. But a lot of girls think I wouldn't be serious about the relationship if I wasn't thinking about moving in. They think I wouldn't commit. Relationships end because of the very discussion couples have about moving in together. Every other part of their relationship might be almost like a good dream but then it all comes crashing down when they have disagreements about moving in together. Just because I don't want to "officially" live in the same place doesn't mean I'm not serious about them. I don't know, is this just weird of me?
Also I appreciate the people that actually took the time to read this brick of text...
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Sure, it can. Dating someone and living with someone can be two very different things. People vary in terms of things like level of cleanliness, amount of alone time they prefer, what roles they think each person should take when they live together. You may find out that your partner has some annoying habits that you would only discover if you live together, etc. People tend to be on their best behaviour when they're dating, so you see what they're really like when you live with them. It's not uncommon for couples to get into more arguments than usual when they first move in together (or a little while after they've been living together). Many couples work through this time and figure out something that works for both of them. Some don't.
Anyway, you aren't alone in thinking you'd prefer to live separately from your partner. There are couples, even married couples, who keep their own separate homes. Google something like "couples living separately" and you'll see articles written about such couples.
That said, it is the cultural norm to live with your partner, if not before marriage, then definitely after marriage. It is seen as the "logical progression" of a relationship. Because of that, you'll certainly meet women who would not be happy with such an arrangement (I suspect the majority of men and women expect to live with their long-term partner or spouse some day).0