I'm not ugly but even the uglier girls don't reply to my messages...
I mean how much lower can I aim? geez
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Barring all kinds of questions about what you're using as a starting message, how your profile is set up, and how much the girls you are asking resemble your interests: it's OkCupid. It is not a miracle site for getting dates, it's just an alternative to real life dating that may very well be worse than it.
But things like your profile, your personality similarities to the girls, and especially how you phrase your starting message are important, too. Are you asking them more than "Hey, what's up"? Are you involving their interests in the message text? for example, "Hey I noticed you enjoy The Office, I've heard it's good, would you recommend it?"0