Sorry for the abbrassive title, but I am in a situation that I've never been in before. I just started dating my current boyfriend a month ago after knowing him for 2 years. We were friends for a long time and when I met him I was in a relationship, when it ended I established I wasn't looking for another for a good while. He stuck around, was patient and a great guy. Never tried anything, never made me feel obligated to date him... nothing.
A while ago I got back into the dating scene and we decided to give it a shot. We hit it off and got together. But as soon as we did, it was like a switch flipped.
He acts like a clingy romantic novel-writer, and not in the good way... in the cheesy, bordering "too much" way.
He constantly talks to me about how we're going to be together forever, how if I died he'd kill himself just to be with me, how he could never see himself with anyone but me - he'd rather be alone than be without me. It's not only this, he can't go 5 minutes without texting me if I'm not right in his face, even if I'm just in the OTHER ROOM - including the freaking bathroom.
I hate to say it but it turns me off. He is acting like a desperate, love sick puppy who has to be attached to my hip wherever I go. He doesn't live with me, but when he stays over and I leave for work in the morning... he'll get upset if I don't wake him up to hug or kiss him - sometimes I am just running late. Literally, he called me crying asking if I hated him.
What happened to the cool, laid back guy who I connected so strongly with? Why is he acting like an over-9000 stage clinger? I like him a lot, but our relationship is so new and he's taking it too fast and getting too attached... it's been a month! I don't know that I'm even at the love stage with him yet.
How so I get him to calm down and come back down to earth without shattering his feelings? Please help me.
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Tell him that. Tell him everythings so fast, to take things slowly. When what he says feels weird, tell him that too.
He needs to know you're uncomfortable. And it'll be his own fault if he keeps pressing it on - you'll have your limits after all.3