I will admit, I've been feeling bitter, resentful, angry, frustrated, depressed and regretful for a couple of years now about this, but I feel it started reaching its boiling point ever since I turned 25.
The pain, frustration of being a late bloomer, I'm in my late 20's now and still never had a girlfriend, and people have always said things to me such as its never too late, you have plenty of time, better late than never, its not a race, blah blah blah, it just angers and pisses me off when people say that because I feel I missed out my youth that I will never get back, what has going through my mind since I was nearing the end of 25 and still on my mind now, I have felt unmotivated to take action to fix my issues with women, because I feel if I ever do get a girlfriend and start having the dating life/sex life I always dreamed of.
I'll never be able to heal the mental wounds, scars, pain of missing out on my teens and 20's for dating, relationships and sex, since so much of our culture, the media, generally always portrays dating, relationships, and sex as something young people do, as in teens and 20's, like let's say if I ever do get a girlfriend in the future and I'm out there in public with her and I see all these couples out there younger than me, it will be a painful reminder of what I missed out on earlier.
Sorry but I choose to compare myself to others, I hate being different and hate being the odd man out, that's something I will never be able to change, because even if I do fix my issues with women and start having a girlfriend, I will still be the odd man out because I will always be a late bloomer.
I remember one asshole said "stop comparing, you'll never beat them but it doesn't matter one way or another and getting a girlfriend shouldn't be about beating them anyway", sorry but that matters me, the fact I can no longer beat them means I already lost.
It also angers me on how some people say that 30's and older is the prime for guys, that guys supposedly become more attractive as they age, ya well so what if guys, men's peak attractiveness years are in his 30's and 40's? The reality is that most men in their 30's and 40's who are successful with women were successful with women in their teens or 20's. Plus once my career is taking off and I'm well I established, financially stable, women will value me for reasons that I don't want to be valued for, which does not appeal to me.
Ya but in your 50's your bodies are much weaker, not as much sexual energy and stamina as a person in their prime teens and 20's
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I have never dated either, im 28. I hate it, I was always shy, still am. socially anxious, still am, no career... maybe I need to make myself, maybe I am one of those people who get nothing in life, so far I feel like I have to lie or sneak around to get a tool I need to make a guitar (I am in the process of making my second instrument which is actually an electric bass guitar). I have always been unsuccessful with people, and worst of all with girls.
I cannot relate to them, I have always been an introvert and could never really tell if a girl liked me or anything. problem with websites like this is I ask a question like did this person like me (5 years ago) and usually the answer is yes. so since nobody told me what to look for before all that, I am getting slightly better with reading women, but really the only girls I see are 2 friends I might see once a week, and then women I see in bars with their friends or boyfriends... and I likely wouldn't talk to them anyways.
But I guess to answer your question... I don't know, I think that we almost instinctively want to have someone who is on our side. someone who understands why we do the things we do. cares about our interests. then we have someone to care about, and it brings about things to do.
When I say things to do, as a loner I get questioned all the time with what I am going out for, as if I will get in trouble like a child, one problem is that I still live at home and have no way out, and the other I think bigger factor is that I do most things alone, and my parents have caught on to that. but my mother is always the most worried about my life. and I see that my sisters who are much better at life than me, get more freedoms as they grew up, they can get anything they want.
People say all sorts of things to people like us because like most things that people find strange, they have no idea what to say.
I think that people like us...>>2