Each time I dump him I always end up taking him back because he ends up doing the its the end of the world type of ordeal. He says im the only one he has in his life and he has no friends and his family doesn't really care about him.
I feel really bad and dont want to do it but I really can't go on with him anymore.
We been together for a long time so I feel I should do it in person but then that happens when i am there in person.
- Do it in person and run away right away57% (8)100% (9)74% (17)Vote
- Do it by email7% (1)0% (0)4% (1)Vote
- Do it on video chat21% (3)0% (0)13% (3)Vote
- Other Idea (Put in opinion)15% (2)0% (0)9% (2)Vote
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He's manipulating you. You've already tried many times to break up, so send an email saying that you wish no further contact, that way it's in writing so if you need to prove it to the police it's there, showing that you told him, in case things escalate to harassment. If you tell him in person, he pulls at your emotions and knows he can get to you. Don't give him this power.
What he's doing is borderline abusive, if it's not already, but only you might know. He has no friends for a reason, and to lose you means he's lost one thing he feels he is controlling. That's why I say it's abuse since he's manipulating you.
You owe him nothing more than an email saying goodbye, and I know it will be hard at first, but after that, you must practice the art of ignoring.
I had to do this with my ex who was boorish and mean to everyone, including me, and no matter how I broke it off with him, I was apparently doing it wrong, or my timing was always wrong. I tried everything, seriously. To his face, in a text, in an email, I was nice, I got mad, I was stern.. you name it, I tried everything and it was always the same song and dance. Finally I went to the police and they suggested an email. I did this to prove I was telling him to leave me alone. From that point, I've had to ignore everything he's done, trying tactics to make me call him. Slowly it stopped, but even today, he finds some way to try and play nice guy to make an excuse to make a profile on Facebook to write to me. (I've blocked him otherwise.) He was abusive. Recognize the signs. Like I said, there is a reason guys like this have no friends and people seem to hate them. They know this, and try to manipulate their girlfriends to have some sort of control, and become asshats when they feel that control slipping away. Get out of this fast and with some proof, and do NOT contact him once it's done no matter what.
Good luck! :)1