My boyfriend is convinced that ALL humans subconciously match walking pace with people they care about.
I natrually walk fast, so unless I'm engaged in conversation with someone or am holding their hand, I can't easily match pace. It becomes more of a concious effort. Not to mention, I'm easily distracted by my surroundings.
My boyfriend recently had shoulder surgery making him walk quite a bit slower, and due to his sling I can't really hold his hand. So when we went out on a coupld of walks together, I'd walk too fast... catch myself and wait for him to catch up.
He was inceradibly insulted/hurt and assumed I don't care about him. To top it off, I didn't show enough excitement or genuine interest in our weekend plans to get away, so he also assumed I don't care about that either.
Regardless of how increadibly silly I find this to be, I still hurt his feelings and am looking for a way to make it up to him.
*** Extra detail: as an introvert, I don't display my emotions like most people do and my dody language doesn't always reflect my true heart. I know I can't expect him to decode my inner most feelings, but I certainly want him to trust how much I love him even when my body language doesn't cooperate. My insides are jumping up and down clapping and my heart is over the moon with him... but my outsides don't show it.
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Why are his feelings or sensibilities incredibly silly? That's incredibly insensitive and condescending. Yet you want him to understand YOU, and to read your hidden emotions somehow? This sounds like a bit of a double standard. Just because he is different than you, with different needs/desires, does not make them any less valid than yours. You're going to need to learn how to compromise, and perhaps learn to open up your inner world to him, even if it is hard. And you being so consumed with your walking pace, rather than being present and attentive to your companion IS offensive (whether you see it, agree, or not). It shows total disregard and indifference. After all, if he had been like you, and not said how he was feeling, you likely would have kept right on walking away from him, rudely leaving him to play catch up. This is a perfect example of a double standard. Right? Think about it.0
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