So I went out on a 2nd date with this girl. The 1st date went well and she texted me "Thanks for coffee" the same evening. We set out for date #2
She shows up and doesn't even give me a hug even though I hugged her at the end of date #1.
We enter the resturant for dinner (I wish I hadn't taken her out to eat).
She has her phone out looking down under the table. She says she is texting her cousins, as there is a cousin meetup later in the night. I found during the date she kept looking at her phone a lot.
She didn't get my jokes, at one point I just waved my hand and said forget it... Just because she stared and me and couldn't get my joke.
Later she had her hand udner her chin and I asked if she was bored or tired. She said... Both!
She also kept asking when the waitress would come over.
I also paid for dinner hoping she would at least say she is going to pay for half. I wasn't going to let her if she did, but I wanted to see if she would at least offer. She failed!
So I pay for dinner, expecting a "thank you for dinner". I get a "Should we head out now?"
I was shocked, but I thought okay maybe she will thank me outside. She just smiles outside staring at me... for a minute we stand and stare while she smiled and I must have had a frusterated look.
She did not thank me, I gave her a hug and we left in our own cars.
I got no text from her, in fact we haven't contacted each other in almost a week now.
I find I haven't gotten over her. I guess I am so pissed with how it all played out. And, I have met other much more polite women in the mean time. But, I can't stop thinking of that girl... I don't get what is wrong with me?
Is it because I had higher expectations and it all burned down so fast?
I felt like she was perfect for me... till I noticed other things or another side to her.
I kinda of feel maybe she was shy or nervous, but she says she doesn't get that way at all.
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You cannot get over her because she was the one making you feel insecure. Somehow that makes you wonder how it could have been.
I think you should be honest. Contact her and ask directly what happened. That you don't understand how it went from a great 1st date to a bad 2nd date. Explain that you saw so much potential and now you are just confused with what happened.
From experience I tell you, it's better to ask and solve this now. Otherwise you will keep wondering.0
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