The vast majority of women like me interpret chivlary as being polite. However, I have began questioning why I do this? I think it is because society has engrained the ideology that women should be put on a pedestal. Why is the man only expected to be polite to women? Like paying for the date. If women were expected to be polite too then shouldn't women split the bill, so we are both being polite? Why do we expect men to approach but then expect to take charge in our careers? As the days pass by I am beginning to dislike my own gender. I am trying to wrap my head around equality.
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Is it against feminism to expect chivalry?
In my opinion it is a chivalry was seemingly a code for knights who were held on a higher standard. It's amusing to me how treating gals like human beings was seemingly a higher standard for certain guys rather than basic courtesy.
Why is the man only expected to be polite to women?
They're not if anything chivalry suggests guys being polite to gals was special treatment rather than basic courtesy. I find society generally conditions gals to be polite to guys as gals are the nurturers, peacemakers, caregivers, etc.
If women were expected to be polite too then shouldn't women split the bill, so we are both being polite?
In my opinion that's not a matter of politeness but differing on who pays. Some believe both parties should pay and some believe the asker pays.
Why do we expect men to approach but then expect to take charge in our careers?
Who is this we? Just because gals generally do not approach doesn't mean gals expect guys to. More likely gals do not approach because they see no need to. Why approach when enough guys are approaching you.
"I think it is because society has engrained the ideology that women should be put on a pedestal."
Bit curious where did you get the idea that society has such an ideology when historically gals have been oppressed and seemingly regarded as inferiors/lessers and presently it's seemingly a commonplace norm to use a derogatory insult to refer to the general female population? I find if any gender has been placed on a pedestal it's been male.0
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