I met this guy. He is 46 and I am 35. He seems really nice. We have the same outlook on things, we get along so well. We have great chemistry. Into each other and barely any baggage either. Including never being married and both have no kids.
The only problem I have with him is that he does not work. He just finished his casual job and is now unemployed again. He says that he is able to get jobs easy so giving him the benefit of the doubt there. He shares a place with 3 other guys as well. A bit weird he is not stable in that regard at his age?
I still rent though but live on my own. Have a permanent full time job for years though.
I just would prefer he has his shit together more. I know I can't be to picky with men. It is very rare the these days to find someone who wants an actual relationship. He studies as well. Accounting. He says he looks for jobs almost everyday. Should I take his word for it or look for someone more stable?
He is from a different country as well. He is Spanish and I am Australian. He has asked me for money and always paid for things as well. I told him that was a deal breaker and he would be gone so fast if he did that. Been in that situation before and have learnt my lesson.
He had his job when we first met but he does not now so a bit worried I will be taken advantage of financially. He assures me that he would never take advantage of me.
What would you guys do in my shoes?
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1) I'm sorry. You can be picky if you want to. I wouldn't ever settle for something I didn't want, especially because I got older. One guy ends up getting what he wants and I don't--not fair to me.
2) I would give it a bit more time. You seem to like this guy. So I wouldn't necessarily "push" him into getting his own place, but I would tell him that it's something that you prefer him to have.
I think 6 months is an ample time for him to get his crap together. He should have a stable job by then and be in at least the process of finding his own place.0