As a virgin myself, I only want a virgin boyfriend for my first time. It's very offensive how those types even think we deserve them. Why should I give it away to a type like that when other girls already had their chance? Hell nope..
But now I'm wondering if those are detected easily? Do they make it so obvious most of the times in their conversation on a date with a girl? I would hate to get one of them that lied his way through and waste moment of my valuable time with him.
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While you can't prove a man's virginity physically, there are certain things that make his story more or less evident. For all intents and purposes, you can break virgins down in to two categories, both of which can usually be identified with observation evidence rather than hard evidence.
1) Virgins by choice
A virgin by choice can be identified by the fact that they are very open about intentionally being a virgin. Often they seem attractive and popular enough that most people in our culture would have assumed they were sexually active. They will always have a explanation for WHY they have chosen to abstain from sex up to this point. Usually, they are saving their virginity for a life-long monogamous relationship, probably sealed with a marriage license. Some may only be waiting for some other serendipitous moment or feeling to give up their virginity without the expectation of life-long commitment, but often, I find men who make that claim actually fall into category 2.
2) Virgins by circumstance
Virgins by circumstance are occasionally honest about the reasons for their virginity, but sometimes try to mask it as their own choice. A virgin by circumstance is a virgin who wishes he could lose his virginity with just about anyone who meets his lowest criteria, but has not had the opportunity. These guys are either held back from their sexual desires by personal factors like health, attractiveness, or social skills, but are also sometimes held back by more external reasons such as oppressive parents, imprisonment, or a lifestyle that makes interacting with women who meet their minimum criteria sexual partners very uncommon.
Guys who don't fall into either category should be met with some skepticism. A guy who has no good reason to be a virgin but claims he is, likely isn't. He should have a compelling explanation for why he either CHOSE or was MADE to remain abstinent. To say "Meh, I dunno. I'm popular with girls, but I was just kind of waiting for the *right time*" is a statement that reeks of "con-player" to me. Think twice before you accept the idea that a guy has somehow exercised self restraint his entire life, only to give up his virginity to you unceremoniously. Either he doesn't have self control, but doesn't need it because his circumstances have kept his virginity, or he does have self control and has been practicing it for a very intentional and explainable reason.0